30 Actionable Ways to Achieve a Greater Connection with “self” TODAY + Practice Peace and Gain Confidence 

Hey Baddies,

As we learn about self-regulating and self-soothing – we have discussed “feeling triggered.” But what exactly is feeling triggered and how can you learn more about your own triggers?

“Feeling triggered isn’t just about something rubbing you the wrong way. For someone with a history of trauma, being around anything that reminds them of a traumatic experience (also known as a “trigger”) can make them feel like they’re experiencing the trauma all over again.”

“Click here to read more : from http://www.verywellmind.com

Feeling triggered is a physical, and emotional response to a situation that is more than just feeling uncomfortable.

Think PTSD.

And it can happen for a range of reasons that you, as the individual, may or may not be aware of.

As we practice more mindfulness, some of our triggers will come to the surface. We may realize that as we dig deeper into who we are as individuals, we may be faced with some discomfort but it is important to connect with who you are so you can be more aware of you as we continue this journey. 

Remember that we have a goal of calming our nervous system when we are triggered and find ourselves having knee jerk reactions. This takes practice. 

So lets create the important habit and get into the routine of slowing down the knee jerk reactions and replace it with things that bring in more peace and calm states into our lives. 


Below there are 30 ways to start doing just that.

I have created a list to help you start connecting and discovering self. 

Consider write out your answers in a journal or a sacred space… and spend time listening, learning, and discovering. 

  1. The first step is always to breathe and regulate your physical nervous system…so breathe in…..and breathe out….
  2. Take a spiritual bath. Take care of your vessel/temple.
  3. Clean your space and fix your environment to bring you great energy.
  4. Call friends. Surround yourself with people + good energy
  5. Go sit in the sun. The sun has healing properties.
  6. Get “lost.” Go on an adventure.
  7. Watch a different type of movie. Try something different.
  8. Read a book or earn something new
  9. Spend time with an elder
  10. Exercise. Move your body
  11. Journal
  12. Meditate
  13. Make a bucket list and actually start crossing some things off.
  14. Sit in silence
  15. Practice something and work towards a goal
  16. Actually finish that thing you have been working on
  17. Write out a gratitude list
  18. Dance – turn the music up loud
  19. Sing
  20. Write a story, write poetry, do some research
  21. Play a sport – or learn one
  22. Visit a museum
  23. Create something
  24. Look at your accomplishments
  25. Take a risk. Push through your fears (you may surprise yourself)
  26. Sit in awe and enjoy the things/people you have in your life.
  27. Forgive others
  28. Drink water
  29. Treat yourself.  
  30. Pay attention to your emotions.

“Sometimes, you just need a break. In a beautiful place. Alone. To figure everything out.” 

These are just a few suggestions to help you connect with yourself.  Write down anything that you learned about yourself or how you have grown while doing these things. Think about how doing more of these tasks with yourself can help when you are in a stressful situation. Remember that we have a goal of calming our nervous system when we are triggered, and I know you can do it!

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