Learn Who You Is | Blossom & Bloom [3] : How to Develop an Understanding of Self and Increase Self-Awareness

As you are practicing self-love, continued from the last post [Inside Out], you will inevitably start to develop a better understanding of who you are as a person.

“Self-awareness involves being aware of different aspects of the self, including traits, behaviors, and feelings.”

They say there are 3 perceptions of you. There is how you see yourself, how you think others see you, and the way others see you. Have you look at these 3 versions of yourself?

While you are treating yourself and spending time with yourself, observe yourself.  Look objectively at who you are as a person and how you present to the world. As you delve a little deeper into loving yourself, you may learn some things you’ve never known about yourself. You may discover what your triggers are. You may even delve into your shadow work or start discovering your inner child.

“When I discover who I am, I’ll be free.” ― Ralph Ellison

Embrace this. These are exciting times! Try not to get too down on yourself if you discover something you do not like. Try not to get overwhelmed if you realize there is much work to do. Try not to judge yourself too harshly as we are all on our own personal journeys. It is what it is and you is who you is…The great thing is you can choose who you want to be.

Baddies! You do not have to be placed in a box because of what you’ve done in the past, or any subconscious or social constructs. You are free to grow and change and evolve as you please.

“Self-critical thoughts and detrimental predictions about yourself have a huge impact on our mood/feelings. It affects our attitude, decisions and behavior. They ensure our self-esteem stays low and can create physical illnesses.”

― Maddy Malhotra


Here is a challenge to help get the ball rolling on self-awareness, self-discovery, and learning one’s self.

In your journal answer these 20 questions. Take your time and see if any of these answers surprise you. Ask Why things are the way they are. Does anything come from your childhood?

Consider how things may be perceived by others – this is not to change anything necessarily, but to increase awareness, and expose any blind spots. Does anything stand out to you? Are any emotions that need to be inspected? Do you know where some of your answers stem from? (family, past experiences, training, surroundings, self-discovery?)

This will be a great starting point to learning about YOU. Get excited.

  1. Describe yourself in 10 positive words.
  2. What opinion of yourself did you hear that made you think?
  3. What are 5 traits you have that you think are rare?
  4. What compliment have you received that surprised you?
  5. When was the last time you were triggered? What caused it?
  6. What are 5 of your accomplishments?
  7. What skills do you know you have?
  8. What do others tell you you’re really good at?
  9. When was the last time you cried? What caused it?
  10. What do you feel guilt for? How did you contribute?
  11. What are you grateful for?
  12. Name a book or movie that you think is profound. Why?
  13. What would your ideal day look like?
  14. What gets you upset?
  15. What do you want to be better at?
  16. What was the last thing you heard about yourself you didn’t realize you did/do?
  17. What are 5 flaws that you want accept/do accept within yourself?
  18. When have you felt your best? What contributed.
  19. How would 3 people who are closest to you describe you?
  20. What makes you feel joy?

Look at your answers and search for the deeper meanings. Take your time to consider your answers. Write yourself a thank you letter. You are amazing, and you deserve to hear that!