Disappointment is a common occurrence in life. It happens to everyone, all the time. But it can still leave us feeling down and frustrated when things don’t go our way. If you’ve ever dealt with an unexpected breakup, or not getting that promotion, or even cancelled plans, you understand how easy it is to feel let down. In a world with so many variables, possible outcomes, and where others have agency and free will, disappointment is bound to happen to all of us eventually.
Although you may not be able to change things when circumstances don’t go as planned, you can change your outlook and your reactions to them. You can change yourself.
There are ways to manage, survive and even thrive when frustrating situations hit. You can deal with situations in a different way, limit feeling disappointed and not let it affect you so much. In this post I will give you 8 ways to not only deal with disappointment but create more satisfaction in your life today.
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Count your blessings
This should always be one of the first things we do – period. But the feeling should be amplified when dealing with disappointing situations. Do not forget how blessed you are. If you’re reading this then you’re already more blessed than a lot of people. Gratitude will allow you to see the world in a new light and bring some tranquility to mind.
“When we focus on our gratitude, the tide of disappointment goes out and the tide of love rushes in.” – Kristin Armstrong
Come from a place of power.
Remember that you are not a bystander in your life and even if things do not work out with this situation, you won’t be defeated. Look for opportunities of growth and lessons that can be learned. Lean into those situations.
Practice flowing and being like water. Flow state is a conscious state of being fully present, focused in the now, and allowing happiness and contentment with no room for self-consciousness. Also, could be described as rolling with the punches or being in the zone.
When you allow yourself to enter flow state you do not leave much room for emotions such as anger, jealousy, envy, stress, aggression, competition, worry, and disappointment, all lower level ego-based emotions.
Release expectations and you release yourself.
Sometimes when you limit the strong attachments to one particular outcome you free yourself. You also allow other possible outcomes that can be better for you and more aligned for your path This is such an important point that I will expound upon soon.
Feel and Form a plan
Feel the emotions for a moment and then form a plan of action. I will never tell you not to feel emotions or tell you to stifle your feelings. It is human nature to feel it bad when situations do not go your way. The key is to allow yourself that moment, for a moment – then move – act. Do not wallow. Get to work.
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Fill your life with many exciting things.
This works by giving yourself many things to look forward to instead of just that one thing. That way if one thing doesn’t work out, you have many other things that will bring you joy. How does the saying go? Don’t put all your eggs in one basket. This will limit one situation holding so much weight in your life.
Don’t give up.
If you are striving towards something and have been rejected in one way or another, Do not give up.
Re-frame your thinking and consider it a redirection instead of a rejection, and even a divine intervention.
Look at the big picture. When you come to realize that in the grand scheme of life, being rejected, or disappointment is not going to hold you back or even matter in the long run, you will already be miles ahead of others.
Most importantly – Make a conscious decision to move boldly as if the world is on your side.
It’s human nature to want to protect yourself and move with caution, but are you really living your best life if you walk around fearful? Use the negative emotions as a tool and a motivational factor instead.
And finally -I need to repeat this sentiment for the baddies in the back. Although you may not be able to change things when circumstances that don’t go as planned, you can change your outlook and your reactions to them. You can change yourself. It is my goals that my baddies are well equipped for the ups and downs in life and have tools to deal with disappointments in the best way. If you’ve found this helpful – let me know below. Id love to hear your stories.